There they sit! The people who come for the first date can be spotted from a mile away. A woman and man facing each other, being nervous and awkward across a table. Undoubtedly, they are there for their first date. On a first date, you take an initiative to look nicely groomed, looking beautiful and stylish but never overdone. There is a visible and obvious formality. These observable clues are enough to judge that they are on their first. They usually scan the menu, table setting, room and only occasionally the eye contact is made. The salad course by strained silence is punctuated. There are only a few small talks which are also regarding food and silence consumes most of the time.
First date conversations can be really awkward sometimes. It is very nice to act spontaneously at that time, but it's even better to have a few things in mind before you go out for your first date. Regardless of the fact that you are a girl or boy, the tips below will help you anyway. The following habits will ensure that you make a good first impression on your date.
#1. Listen More Than You Talk
Some people are blessed with quality to talk endlessly. However, that is only one side of the coin. In order to establish a great repo, you need to be a good listener as well. The most important part is not to talk endlessly without knowing the perspective of the other person. Rather have the habit of listening to the other person carefully. You can build up your conversation from there.
#2. Show Genuine Interest
Your first date question can lead you to another date with that beautiful person. So show your genuine interest towards that person. Acknowledge if the guy/girl has taken the initiative to dress up for you. It is very exciting gets to know the other human being. It can probably lead to an amazing relationship of your life.
#3. Talk About Travel
Talking about travel experiences can make your conversation interesting and full of happy moments. The travel topic will let you discover the great travel experience of the other person and the conversation will remain engaging and impactful. These interactions make people feel better and more attracted towards each other.
#4. Consider How You Talk
The important thing is obviously what you talk, but even important is how you talk. Keep the conversation smooth and don’t try to dominate the interactions. Avoid the extremes in autonomy. Keep all the responses to be warm and calm. Create smoothness with redirection and acceptance.
#5. Choose Interesting Talks
The controversial talks are always interesting and full of enjoyable facts. This is very enjoyable first date conversation. This will even open you up and make the interaction comfortable. Do not keep it too personal for the first date, but keep it a little spicy and sassy.
#6. Share Things
Personal and emotional information exchange leads to the powerful connection of feelings. This could be the first step to a romantic relationship. Of course, you do not have to share the deepest secrets if you are not that comfortable. However, sharing makes you feel close to each other.
Questions
The First Phase: Initial 10 minutes
In order to utilize the first 10 minutes productive, make sure you try to ask general questions that will make the other person comfortable. The questions in this stage are casual and introductory.
#1. What do you do? And how long?
The initial step to get to know each other is asking what is the other person doing. This will give a brief introduction about the person. So try and start with something like this.
#2. Where are you from?
Knowing the background of the person really helps to build up a foundation of a good friendship. It will also make you aware that what kind of culture the other person is coming from.
#3. Who are all in the family?
Taking initiative to about the family will literally be a warm and cozy gesture. Asking something related to the family will also ensure the comfort level of the person with you.
#4. What is your major interest?
This will a cherry on the top to establish a comfortable relationship with the date. People usually reveal a lot in their personality when they talk about their interest and hobbies.
The Second Phase: After you start drinking together
When the drinks arrive, you are likely to be a little comfortable with your date until that time. Questions over the drinks can be a mix of casual and inquisitive. These questions will allow you and the other person to get totally comfortable. You should ask some specific questions in this stage.
#5. What are your hobbies for the spare time?
Now since you are enough comfortable with the person, you can ask a little personal question. Asking about the likes and dislikes will involve you in building an interesting conversation.
#6. What kind of music are you into?
Music tells a lot about a person’s likes and dislikes. Moreover, that also reveals the sensitive and emotional side of a person. The kind of music taste one has actually shaped their personality.
#7. Where have you traveled? Or any future plans/trip?
Of course, interesting traveling stories can beat any kind of awkwardness. The adventurous and happy conversations regarding travel can lighten up the mood.
#8. Are you into reading? What kind of books?
Like music, same goes with books as well. Interest in books tells you the intellectual mentality of the person. It is important to know the mentality of the person to get more involved with someone.
The Third Phase: When you start getting comfortable
If your date has started to hit it off, it is a great time to slip into some personal and intimate conversations to tighten the bond of friendship. Don’t try and compel the person to share something with you. Just keep the conversation natural and spontaneous.
#9. Do you like keeping pets? A cat or dog person?
To know how sensitive a person is, just ask them about pets and animals. People have their preferences. But if you are a sensitive person, it is important to know how the other person is towards sensitivity.
#10. Do you have any nicknames?
This will let you enter into a little personal life of the other person. This question can work as a starter to the personal conversation.
#11. Do you have any elder or younger siblings?
Again, talking about the family makes the other person feel important and special. Since you have slipped into personal conversation, the family conversation will make the body language warmer.
#12. What’s on your bucket list?
Everyone is excited in talking about their bucket list and the things they are craving to do. This will lead to transforming the conversation into an amazing one.
#13. What is your time? A night person or morning?
Knowing these things will give you a hint that what time are they free and you could probably call that time. Also, you will know the time they are occupied so that you don’t disturb them.
#14. Where do you want to take your career?
It is important to know how much the person is serious about their career and life. Knowing their futuristic aspect will show the maturity of the person.
#15. How is your social life like?
It is the stage you can ask about their social life. The questions about their friends and life work or college hours. It will let you know how that person spends their most time like.
#16. What are you passionate about the most?
Now, this is also an impactful question. Acknowledging each other’s passions will build up a strong bond. This will also lead to an intimate conversation.
The Phase Four: Book For The Second Date
It is now time to seal the deal. Some crucial questions can lead you to a confirmed second date. If things go well until this time, ask the questions below:
#17. What are your plans for this week?
By asking what she/he will be doing in the whole week, you are taking the initiative to book another date. This question will let you know when the other person is free and when not.
#18. How do you like the place?
If they loved your company, they will love the place as well. So asking this question is like indirectly asking how did you find me. Ask this to confirm your date.
#19. How are going home?
By asking how will they go home, you can have a little extra time with them and probably make a plan to meet again.
#20. Do you have anything preplanned for the weekend?
Here you go, ask her/him out for another date after you are totally comfortable with them. Ask them on what day or night they are free to continue this lovely date.
The Phase Five: Continue the date
This phase is a little tricky and you should take this initiative only if you are extremely interested and feeling strong vibes for them. If you are confident that they will love to continue the date, then ask the below questions.
#21. There is a cool bar nearby, want to join?
Asking out for a drink is the ultimate surety that you wanna continue the date. So ask them directly whether they are also interested in continuing.
#22. We are having to party at our friend’s place, you wanna stop by?
Joining in a party will be excellent after the date. You will also get some valuable time if you will ask them out for a house party.
#23. Want to get coffee or dessert after this?
Again asking out for a cup of coffee or a walk with ice-cream. This will a very pleasant and warm gesture to let the other person know that you want to spend more time with them.
#24. Where are you heading after this?
This will be another gesture to keep them with yourself for some more time. You can probably drop them to their place. Also, walk to home for them.
This is our guide of questions you can ask on your first date. If it was helpful or you want to give some suggestion, just comment down below.
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